Why I don’t do toxic positivity in my practice.
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Look, I'm going to be straight with you. If you're looking for someone who's going to tell you that your ADHD is a "superpower" or that autism just makes you "think differently," you've come to the wrong place.
Don't get me wrong - there are absolutely strengths that come with being neurodivergent. But I'm not here to slap a rainbow sticker on your struggles and call it healing.
My name is not related to a chocolate factory, I will not sugar coat anything.
When you're having a meltdown in the supermarket because the fluorescent lights are making your brain feel like it's being stabbed, the last thing you need to hear is "just think positive thoughts!" When you're lying in bed unable to function because autistic burnout has stolen every ounce of your capacity, being told you're "blessed with a different way of thinking" feels like a slap in the face.
Here's what I believe: your difficulties are real. Your pain deserves to be recognised. The world genuinely wasn't designed for minds like ours, and pretending otherwise doesn't help anyone heal.
In my practice, we acknowledge that:
Sometimes being neurodivergent really sucks
Masking for decades leaves real trauma
Late diagnosis grief is legitimate and necessary
You're allowed to be angry about what you've lost
"Everything happens for a reason" is bullshit when you're in pain
Add menopause and shit gets real
The change/peace/resolution we want happens when we can sit with the difficult stuff without rushing to make it pretty. When we can say "this is hard" without someone immediately trying to reframe it as a gift.
That doesn't mean we stay stuck in the pain - it means we move through it honestly, at your pace, with someone who gets that the journey isn't always sunshine and neurospicy rainbows.
You deserve support that meets you where you are, not where someone thinks you should be. You deserve to have your reality acknowledged, not minimised with motivational quotes.
Ready for authentic, no-BS support on your neurodivergent journey? Let's talk.
